Do you love someone just because...

Do you love someone when they give you something or treat you a certain way? Do you still love them when they don't treat you like your special? Do you love them when they are not giving things to you? Is your goal to try and make that person happy? Are you just fine with only monetary rewards?

Love is not a feeling that comes and goes.

Love is just more than a feeling, more than a gift, more than a night, more than a kiss, more than just things we see or feel.

The music industry has only damaged what love means. You hear songs everyday that tell you what they want to you think love is or is not. If we trust the opinion of the music industry then we should probably conclude that love is a myth or something of the “gods”.

Not to let the advertising industry go without comment, love according to them is about looks more than anything. If you wear this or if you drive this then you will find love or be loved. If you are only loved for what you have or the way you look are you really anything? Is there more to you than just looks or belongings? Only if love was that simple we could all love.

Love is not made or created.

We you look at how people loosely throw the word “love” around you wonder if love is even real. It is as if the word “love” has no real meaning. You can say “I love that car” even though you don’t really know anything about it.

Love is not an emotion that we fall in and out of.

Should the results of love be forced actions? I don’t believe so, because then it would no longer be love. So should we do all the actions of love on a certain day just because everyone else is and the day is supposed to be about “love”? As we all know relationships have ups and downs in them. So how many people are really in the ups in their relationships when that day comes around every 14^th? I doubt many really are because of where the focus is on that day. The holiday is all about the external and not the internal. We buy chocolates and flowers that are over priced compared to normal MSRP. We book dinner at an expensive restaurant that is filled with others just like you. We book a hotel room that is themed to someone's likes. We spend all this money one day that is really not like any other except the inflated prices. Is it really needed to help your relationship? Is the money and external really worth it when at the end will all fade away?

Love is not just a simple reaction to someone's behavior.

Having said that what are other options? How much time and money do you spend the rest of the year on your relationship? Maybe we should be focusing on that a little more the rest of the year because it will last a lot longer than just one day. It should be a “because I want to” rather than “because it is expected”. If we are doing it spontaneously then maybe it would keep that “fire” that people talk about in their relationship. don’t get me wrong I am okay with planning stuff, I just think we are too focused on one day rather than a lifetime.

Love is a commitment.